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Post by greatscott2 on Jul 4, 2010 21:30:00 GMT -5
their kid(s) were bad? I broke up with my bf of 8 yrs last Thursday because I can't handle his bad daughter anymore. Now I know it's not the kid's fault, but I can't raise someone else's kid! Let me tell you, this kid has absolutely no empathy whatsoever. She has burned down our house, to the ground, tore up countless classrooms and just recently placed by the police in a juvenile facililty, all this and this child is 10 y/o! And my bf wonders why I wouldn't marry him! I don't want to hurt him by telling him I think his kid is a future serial killer. Really, I've see her kick domestic pets for no reason, and I mean hard. My bf thinks she is an angel, so I had to get out this relationship before this kid does major damage to me! I love my bf very much, but I can't help this child if the parents are willingly blind to her psycopathic behavior. I needed to get this out, thanks for reading! One more thing, I'm flat out worn down after 8 yrs psychiatry visits, lazy freakin mother, dad in denial, but most of all, a complete lack of empathy on this child's part!
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Post by Admin on Jul 4, 2010 21:33:59 GMT -5
Wow it sounds like a very complicated relationship. Telling him this is how you really feel is simply out of the question. Your boyfriend may love you, but his daughter will always come before you, as does his loyalty to her as well. I think though it may be difficult breaking up is the best choice. There is nothing yuo can do other then say so little (after all she isn't your child), and from the way it sounds, she isn't going to change. His daughter is apart of him and if you can't be around her, then you can not be around HIM.
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Post by greatscott2 on Jul 4, 2010 22:03:22 GMT -5
Davie, thank you so, so much for your insight. You have no idea how much I needed to hear what you've just posted. I've been feeling rotten that I have made no impact on this kid whatsoever, but like I said, I can't raise someone else's child. Thanks again Davie, you really lifted my chin up.
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Post by Admin on Jul 4, 2010 22:10:06 GMT -5
I'm glad  . |
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Post by angel3 on Jul 4, 2010 22:58:59 GMT -5
aaawww...the kid is really horrible!!! you better tell your bf about his kid.  so sad for you |
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Post by ariel on Jul 5, 2010 13:55:58 GMT -5
Wow..that really is some good advice. 6.6
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Post by massie on Jul 5, 2010 14:37:05 GMT -5
Great advice davie, I couldn't have said it better myself. Yeah, Great, you have been in the relationship almost a decade, and things with his girl has only worsen. There is only so much you can take, and you might as well try and find true happiness while you still can. You are making the right choice, as every good decision is usually very painful. But you will both be better for it in the future.
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Post by ashuchan on Jul 5, 2010 18:10:04 GMT -5
Maybe you could reach out to Dr. Phil and be his next Dr. Phil family?
Or Maury Springer Povich =D
Ok, this could be me but it reminds me of the story about someone's gf who had a 16 y/o daughter and they thought the daughter wanted them because shed hang out in the bathroom while he showered.
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so sad for you 
