Post by Admin on Apr 12, 2011 12:17:06 GMT -5
Why r people obsessed with sex? Why is sex deemed as a way of showing love and intimacy?
People aren't obsessed with sex. If that was the case people would have no care in the world and just instantly fuck anyone they thought was attractive on sight. Our society is naturally attracted to the idea of sex, and hot people. Sex IS deemed as a way to show love and intimacy when it is INTENDED to do so. Sex can be casual IE: fucking, or sex can be filled with love and intimacy: Love making.
I ask because I don't get it, infact I don't believe that it is something that can create a tight bond between two people. It is carnal and animalistic. It makes the person feel good for a few seconds, self gratification.
This statement here (especially the part in red) shows signs of someone who has suffered some kind of sexual abuse or has a sexual dysfunction. I'm no professional, so I really can't offer too much advice here. If you really do feel sex is "carnal and animalistic behavior" I suggest going to a therapist to sort those issues out.
The best sex I ever had has been with myself and my totem pole vibrator and good porn. I am no virgin as clearly I have a child and have had a small few number of partners. Only 1 has pleasured me. I have been celebate since my chi.d was conceived and with the lack of sexual contact some of the happiest years of my life. Maybe I am selfish but to me the act is annoying and actually a turn off for me.
Just because you haven't had any luck with the men you've encountered thus far means every other man will be the same.
I've even had people tell me there is something wrong with me. Why? Because I don't have a need for it? I see no problem. No drama, no bullshit, no man trying to get a piece all the time.
Hmm, based on this can I assume you've had boyfriends or men in the past only want sex from you? If thats the case, like I said above, you can't base all men in the world, on the few scum bags you've encountered.
How can you say the act of sex is supposed to bring people together when people are having random hookups on a regular basis. It cheapens and already perpetuates an almost unnecessary act (obviously we need children) but does ot having sex kill you? No, though most people act like it does. I am living proof it does not.
Sex varies from person to person. Some people take sex alot less serious then the next person. While some take it way more serious then the last. For some sex means nothing, while others may think it's everything. (nothing as in no emotion, and everything as in "OMG MARRY ME NOW"). You need to take it from the source. It's unrealistic to think every single person just wants to fuck and move onto the next person. Just as it's unrealistic to think every person wants to charish sex till their married or only have sex to produce children.
So what's wrong with me then, in your opinions. As I stated above, I have nothing wrong with me.
You sound very defensive the way you wrote this out, reminding us your "normal" doesn't make us think you're anymore normal or not. I think you do enjoy sex, and you do want to have sex. Maybe not with many partners, but I think you definitely desire the romantic sex you see in movies, the affection and love part.
I don't know your personal life nor past, but based on the hints you've given here and there on the board. I'd like to assume you have had affection issues with men. Has any man you've been involved with actually love you Amanda? Or are you insecure and isolate yourself from the opposite sex, thus not getting laid and now ranting about how sex isn't that important? If you truly felt that sex WASN'T important, why are you putting MEN down so much and not sex itself? Your emphasis on how men just want sex is a red flag.
I think ultimately Amanda what you've gone through with men should not stop you from having future romantic relationships. What you really need is a boyfriend who loves you back, and can eat you out really good.
Hope this helps.
People aren't obsessed with sex. If that was the case people would have no care in the world and just instantly fuck anyone they thought was attractive on sight. Our society is naturally attracted to the idea of sex, and hot people. Sex IS deemed as a way to show love and intimacy when it is INTENDED to do so. Sex can be casual IE: fucking, or sex can be filled with love and intimacy: Love making.
I ask because I don't get it, infact I don't believe that it is something that can create a tight bond between two people. It is carnal and animalistic. It makes the person feel good for a few seconds, self gratification.
This statement here (especially the part in red) shows signs of someone who has suffered some kind of sexual abuse or has a sexual dysfunction. I'm no professional, so I really can't offer too much advice here. If you really do feel sex is "carnal and animalistic behavior" I suggest going to a therapist to sort those issues out.
The best sex I ever had has been with myself and my totem pole vibrator and good porn. I am no virgin as clearly I have a child and have had a small few number of partners. Only 1 has pleasured me. I have been celebate since my chi.d was conceived and with the lack of sexual contact some of the happiest years of my life. Maybe I am selfish but to me the act is annoying and actually a turn off for me.
Just because you haven't had any luck with the men you've encountered thus far means every other man will be the same.
I've even had people tell me there is something wrong with me. Why? Because I don't have a need for it? I see no problem. No drama, no bullshit, no man trying to get a piece all the time.
Hmm, based on this can I assume you've had boyfriends or men in the past only want sex from you? If thats the case, like I said above, you can't base all men in the world, on the few scum bags you've encountered.
How can you say the act of sex is supposed to bring people together when people are having random hookups on a regular basis. It cheapens and already perpetuates an almost unnecessary act (obviously we need children) but does ot having sex kill you? No, though most people act like it does. I am living proof it does not.
Sex varies from person to person. Some people take sex alot less serious then the next person. While some take it way more serious then the last. For some sex means nothing, while others may think it's everything. (nothing as in no emotion, and everything as in "OMG MARRY ME NOW"). You need to take it from the source. It's unrealistic to think every single person just wants to fuck and move onto the next person. Just as it's unrealistic to think every person wants to charish sex till their married or only have sex to produce children.
So what's wrong with me then, in your opinions. As I stated above, I have nothing wrong with me.
You sound very defensive the way you wrote this out, reminding us your "normal" doesn't make us think you're anymore normal or not. I think you do enjoy sex, and you do want to have sex. Maybe not with many partners, but I think you definitely desire the romantic sex you see in movies, the affection and love part.
I don't know your personal life nor past, but based on the hints you've given here and there on the board. I'd like to assume you have had affection issues with men. Has any man you've been involved with actually love you Amanda? Or are you insecure and isolate yourself from the opposite sex, thus not getting laid and now ranting about how sex isn't that important? If you truly felt that sex WASN'T important, why are you putting MEN down so much and not sex itself? Your emphasis on how men just want sex is a red flag.
I think ultimately Amanda what you've gone through with men should not stop you from having future romantic relationships. What you really need is a boyfriend who loves you back, and can eat you out really good.
Hope this helps.
I think you just need to forget whatever bad sexual experiences you may have had and just start off fresh.
